I believe that entertaining at home is a dying custom. Changing attitudes about food, technology’s impact, and a decline in manners has contributed towards this situation.
In 1922 Emily Post first published her book on etiquette. It represented standards of behavior and conduct that Americans considered important for decades into the twentieth century. A host or guest was expected to act in a certain way in order that no person’s feelings should be hurt, which was the goal of manners.
A guest was expected to never complain about the food served. A guest was expected to eat the food. and, at least, pretend to enjoy it. A host or hostess was expected to do whatever they could to make guests feel welcome.
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