Dear Quentin, This situation is causing a lot of issues in my relationship. I have been dating this person for 17 years, have been engaged for six years and have lived together for close to nine years.
I moved into her house and we agreed on $600 monthly rent. Over the years, I have increased how much I have paid in rent, and I have taken on other expenses such as the $300 cable-and-internet bill, and I have contributed to some home improvements (about $10,000 in total). Additionally, when we go out to dine, which is probably 60% of the time, I usually pay. I am now paying $1,100 a month in rent. She has retired and is listed as a domestic partner on my insurance. I am also paying the $200 health-insurance premium.
“‘Her previous company is reimbursing her health insurance, and she is keeping that money.’”
However, her previous company is reimbursing her health insurance, and she is keeping that money. She says she “subsidized” my rent nine years ago to help me out financially, and this is now “pack back” since I am debt-free. Wait, what? I paid her exactly what she asked for back then …