How to Find the Perfect Moment to Propose

by | Jul 4, 2018 | Health Featured

Thinking of Proposing? 7 Tips to Get the Perfect Moment

If you’re thinking about proposing, the sheer number of options may seem overwhelming. Do you go out of your way to find a beautiful venue, in the midst of an extraordinary opportunity, like a vacation or excursion? Or do you consider proposing at home, where you and your partner are most comfortable, and where you’ve built a life together?

Your proposal will be a moment that you and your partner remember forever, and one that has the power to represent and solidify your relationship. So what steps can you take to find the perfect moment to propose?

The Main Goals

Everyone who proposes will want to get something different out of the experience, but in general, you’ll work toward some combination of these main goals:

  • Uniqueness. Your proposal event shouldn’t be a carbon-copy of something someone else has done before. Instead, it should stand on its own in at least a few key ways. Your proposal should also be designed specifically for your partner, and specifically for your relationship—that way, it’s even more special.
  • Pleasure. The surroundings of your proposal should also be as pleasurable as possible for your partner. You can achieve this by partaking in your partner’s favorite activity, serving amazing food, or using a combination of sights, sounds, and smells to paint the perfect picture.
  • Memorability. This is a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, so you’ll want it to be memorable. Details and little touches can make a big difference in creating an immersive scene.

Understanding your priorities, as they relate to these goals, can help you set the scene.

Variables to Consider

Once you have a good understanding of your overarching goals, you can start working on the following variables:

  • The ring. First, you’ll need to consider the ring you want to purchase. Do you opt for something traditional (i.e., a diamond ring), or something more creative and original? How much ring can you afford? Chances are, your partner will be happy no matter how much you spend, but the more thought you put into the decision, the more it’s going to show.
  • The setting. Next, you’ll need to think about the setting. Do you want to stage an elaborate proposal at home, or go out in public? Do you want to stay in your hometown or go on vacation? Perhaps most importantly, do you want this to be a private moment, or do you want to be in public? Your knowledge of your partner’s personality and preferences are going to play a major role in your decision. Instead of striving to make the most romantic or extraordinary gesture, choose the one you think your partner would appreciate most.  
  • The sensory experience. Once you’ve decided on a venue or backdrop, you can get to work on setting the scene. Try to offer something for each of your partner’s senses, including imagery (such as art, or colorful decorations), sounds (such as live music, or atmospheric sound effects), smells (such as potpourri or candles), and tastes (such as the food you’re sharing). If you’re proposing at home or in a familiar location, you’ll have full control over these variables. If you’re out in public, you’ll need to make arrangements with the managers of your chosen establishment. Chances are, they’ll be willing to help; everyone enjoys a good proposal.
  • The timing and presentation. Finally, you’ll need to think about the timing and presentation. The classic route here is to wait for a moment in the conversation or event where it feels “right,” then pull the ring from your back pocket and get down on one knee. However, you might try to time it more specifically; for example, you could make the question coincide with a fireworks display you know will be starting at a specific time, or you might have the ring brought out with dessert at a fancy restaurant. The timing variable can add to the experience, but it can also be difficult to control precisely, so make this decision carefully.

The Planning Process

You don’t need a lot of money to make your proposal successful, but you will need to take your time and invest effort if you want the proposal to be special. Consider enlisting the help of friends or relatives if you’re struggling to find the right touches, or if you need help bringing everything together. Most importantly, try not to stress too much—yes, this is a big moment, but it doesn’t have to be perfect. It just has to be thoughtful and memorable.

Share This